The world is full of skeptics and negative people. Just the other day we met a couple at a friend’s house who was extraordinarily vocal about their negativity, so I thought I’d take a quick break from entrepreneurship, internet marketing, blogging and personal finance to discuss this topic, which can impede your progress toward achieving your goals and objectives in the endeavors you choose to embark on.
See, no matter what you do, some people will always act and behave a certain way. The world needs both the shit and the sugar to function in harmony, and we can’t and should not deny that. What we can do is act and respond accordingly to the negativity around us so that we don’t fall short of achieving our own goals and objectives.
I am not a personal development Guru of any sort, but I feel that I have come a long way in growing as a wiser, more effective and efficient person. I have been able to solidify my belief system which has allowed me to block out the distractions and clearly focus on the prize.
Developing a solid belief system is important because until you establish a solid foundation to start on, external forces will often attempt to move you off your ground. Once you have developed a solid foundation, you can then work on clarity and focus. Clarity and focus is important so you can work towards your goal and measure, monitor and tweak your actions along the way.
To reinforce and sustain the positive energy, I feel that one must surround themselves with like minded individuals and build a network that provides the necessary complimentary skills. This helps maintain the positive environment and ensures that you have a network to tap into who can help you progress with your goals and objectives.
These simple steps have been sufficient in my experience and journey from point A to B, but that said, be ready for people, especially ones who are closest to you, who will try to distract you from achieving your goals. These are usually the very same people who are living a life of compromise and mediocrity who are afraid that you will get ahead of them and leave them behind.
Trust me they are shit scared of your intentions. People like to be average together. They’d much rather have you as part of their comfort zone. They feel that if you succeed, they will feel shameful and reminded of their inability to achieve their own goals and objectives.
Do you really blame them? They are looking out and are protecting themselves from that fear. When you make it, they might say “I am happy for you” but do they really mean it? Deep inside they are not. Some of them will tell you that you got lucky or that you had money to begin with to make more money.
This is just human nature and there is nothing you can do about it. The sooner you realize that the better. I used to argue with these kinds of people but I have grown wiser and know better not to anymore. Now I usually just let it go.
Because I’ve had my fair share of experience with these types of people, I have almost perfected a response that I have readily available anytime someone throws such a nasty pitch at me. It goes something like this . . . “eh, you know not educating myself and staying within the comfort zone of others which often involve following the herd (the masses) do the same old things was just never my cup of coffee”. Beware – You might ruin some relationships.
I am interested in your thoughts. How do you deal with negative people? What has helped you keep the eye on the prize and achieve it? Assuming you told them or they found out, how have the negative people reacted after you achieved your goal?